From the Director 

Help on the Path to Parenthood

Help on the Path to Parenthood

Deliberate – Precise in providing life-affirming early pregnancy medical care and pregnancy/early parenting support.

Stacy (not the client’s real name) walked into the center earlier this week smiling, laughing, and happy to be here, but her story didn’t start that way. Stacy didn’t want to be pregnant. She didn’t want anyone to know she was pregnant. Stacy is the girl who does things with a plan, and pregnancy was not in the plan.

Stacy knew that her parents would have divided opinions about what she should do. Her mom had always been “pro-woman and pro-choice” and when mom heard the news there was pressure to schedule an abortion. But her dad felt differently. He was sure that if Stacy came to Pregnancy Resources, she would get the information she needed to make an informed decision about her pregnancy. Stacy reluctantly agreed and came to meet with a nurse and have an ultrasound. After meeting with the nurse a few times, Stacy made the choice to change her plans and parent her child.

Stacy is now participating in Pregnancy Resources’ pregnancy and early parenting support program. She comes to class weekly to learn about caring for herself during pregnancy and to learn about caring for her little boy once he arrives this winter. She’s making friends with other moms and feeling more prepared every day to take care of her boy when he finally arrives. Both of her parents are now fully supportive of Stacy’s choice to parent her child – and in a few months that precious little one will be welcomed into a family that already loves him dearly.

Help on the Path to Parenthood

A Heart Was Changed

DeliberatePrecise in providing life-affirming early pregnancy medical care and pregnancy/early parenting support.

Luna (not the client’s real name) imagined that a baby would be the answer to her problems. Her marriage had been difficult; her husband seemed distant; and her heart was full of loneliness. Luna thought her prayers had been answered when her pregnancy test came back positive. But then Luna’s world came undone. Her husband had been having an affair – and the pregnancy hastened a painful separation and the start of divorce proceedings. Luna decided to keep her ultrasound appointment but planned to abort later that week. She just couldn’t have a child now. Not like this. Not with him. Not alone.

Luna spent time with a nurse and began to explain her fears and all the reasons why she just “had to have an abortion.” The nurse listened and explained what would happen during the termination procedure, answering Luna’s medical questions with honesty and compassion. When Luna was ready, the nurse provided a free ultrasound, and a tiny baby with a clear heartbeat quickly appeared on the screen. In that moment Luna realized “I can’t do that to my baby.” A heart was changed – a life was saved.

Today, Luna has a healthy, progressing pregnancy and is under a doctor’s care. She is working with a local sister-agency to determine if the best choice for her and her child is a parenting plan OR a plan to place for adoption. Luna’s life is still very complicated – she has little support in her pregnancy and carries many wounds from her dissolving marriage – but Luna is confident that choosing life for her child was the best choice.

Words Matter…

In the days ahead, we will all have opportunity for personal conversations with our family, our friends, our neighbors, and even strangers regarding the overturning of Roe vs. Wade. As we begin (or continue) these divinely appointed interactions, let’s try to remember a few things:

  • Women and men with personal abortion trauma walk among us every day and often never disclose their personal stories.
  • We can strongly disagree and still demonstrate respect toward those with other viewpoints.
  • We can begin every conversation from a place of tender compassion.
  • Every word that comes from our mouths can and should reflect the love of our merciful Savior and Lord.
  • Many people are profoundly concerned and afraid about the long-term potential lack of access to necessary life-saving care if abortion access is restricted or eliminated.
  • The media is not accurately reporting medical truth and is not challenging the inaccurate statements of those featured in the current news cycle.

Here is some truth – truth that is both medically accurate AND life honoring. Abortion is the willful termination of a viable pregnancy.

Emergent medical intervention to address a non-viable pregnancy is NOT abortion – regardless of how it is medically coded for insurance purposes, medical records, or media reporting. Even Planned Parenthood agrees with this statement. Below is a simple explanation of what abortion is, and what abortion is not.

The following medical treatments are not selective/elective abortions:

  • Medical intervention to treat an Ectopic Pregnancy is not selective/elective abortion and will continue to be readily
  • Medical intervention to treat an incomplete spontaneous miscarriage (also called a spontaneous abortion) is not selective/elective abortion and will continue to be readily available.
  • Medical intervention that is required when a pre-birth baby no longer has a heartbeat in the womb is not selective/elective abortion and will continue to be readily available.
  • Medical intervention to treat a Molar Pregnancy is not selective/elective abortion and will continue to be readily available.
  • Medical intervention to treat Anembryonic Gestation, also known as a Blighted Ovum, is not selective/elective abortion and will continue to be readily available.