It takes bravery to call or walk through the doors of Pregnancy Resources for a Post Abortion Medical Screening (PAMS) appointment. This woman is often in crisis after her abortion and typically she will express feelings of isolation and fear.
The situation surrounding her abortion is complex. Current PAMS patients have voiced fears about incomplete abortions and health complications (emotional and physical) because of their decision to abort. Some have reported anger and confusion about lack of sensitivity and guidance from the companies who provided them with the means for abortion.
At PAMS appointments, addressing physical needs first, talking through some of her medical concerns, and helping her to develop a plan for her health can help establish trust. We nurses often hear the words “I am scared,” “I am alone,” “I don’t know what to do,” “I don’t know where to go,” and “Is this normal?” Our patients almost always verbalize the need to feel seen, heard and cared for as they walk through a time of uncertainty and fear.
We let them cry and give them time to talk in a place that is safe. In turn, they sometimes share their stories with us, and we get the opportunity to comfort them and pray with them. We can introduce our patients to the God who sees, the God who heals, and the God who provides. Through PAMS appointments, we can see our patients beyond her decision and meet her where she is. We can walk with her in her difficulty, assist her with physical, emotional, and spiritual needs, and provide hope for the future that can include healing.
When you support Pregnancy Resources, you make hope possible in the days immediately following an abortion decision. Hope that she will find physical, emotional, and spiritual wholeness. Hope that she will feel seen and loved. Hope that she will choose life and not death with her next pregnancy. Thank you for making this type of hope possible.
Christine Kelley RN, Staff Nurse